Holding Space

I was asked, "what's the hardest thing about being a therapist?" I didn't have an answer and have been thinking about this for a couple days. Well I think I've came up with something.

As a new therapist with all this knowledge about relationships, human behavior etc. I find it difficult to be available and present with those outside of the therapy room. Sometimes I feel so helpless in my personal relationships. Its being stuck between a double bind; on one hand you hold compassion and empathy for the suffering of those who you most care for, but one the other hand, you are limited by being mindful of the ethical boundaries that is put in place.

Being a therapist becomes part of your identity and those who trust you will seek advice. When this happens I find myself overwhelmed with ambiguity and confusion; How do I handle this? I withdraw into my internal safe place. I reassure myself that sometimes all anyone needs is empathy and compassion and a space where they can be heard. Simply holding space for them is helpful. There is no need for theory or a therapeutic intervention, just a simple ear and acknowledgment of the pain will do.